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Dear Readers,

I wanted to let everyone know that I'm going on sabbatical, so there will be a change in format in this newsletter. I am ending the summer series with this love letter to Griffin, which feels as sad and bittersweet as I do. There are some columns after this one where I shared some of my grief over losing him, but I thought that wouldn't be a very hopeful a way to end the summer so I didn't publish them. If you'd like to read them they are in the Art of BDSM Columns section on my website.

Starting next Sunday I'll be running an abbreviated version of this newsletter which will include just one of my own columns or newsletters every week. This will allow me to take a break without worrying about collecting new material.

My website will continue to be up and active as always. If you didn't know, there are over 500 pages there of my own writing, interviews, articles, art and photography from a variety of talented people in the scene. I hope you will visit and check some of it out at www.sensuoussadie.com

PS if you'd like to read about why I'm taking a sabbatical, you can read about it here:

http://sensuoussadie.com/sadiescolumns/editorials/laststop.htm 

Warm regards,

~ Sadie


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SCENEsubmissions
August 29, 2004
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This Summer Reading Series
This is part a series of columns called "My Travels with Griffin." It's the story of my relationship with Griffin, with a focus on our mutual exploration of BDSM and spirituality. Since the series is about fifteen columns long, I thought it would be easier to follow the story if I ran them every week in a row. Griffin approved publication of every single column. Please keep in mind that this story started in December of 2002. These columns can also be found in my "Art of BDSM" columns section on my website at http://sensuoussadie.com/columnlist.htm . You can also read the interview with Griffin at http://sensuoussadie.com/interviews/griffininterview.htm

 

*If you want to see a photo of the Kuna Indian Flute I mentioned – it's posted with the article on my website:

http://sensuoussadie.com/sadiescolumns/travelswithgriffin/loveletter.htm


A Love Letter to Griffin
By Sensuous Sadie
SensuousSadie@aol.com
www.sensuoussadie.com


Dear Griffin,
 
One day last summer when I was grieving for a friend who had passed away, you climbed the hill into the woods behind my house. Soon I heard the sad clear notes of your flute, carried by a summer's breeze to my window. I knew you were there loving me from afar and that your music was meant to heal me.
 
To celebrate the new year with you, I bought you a ceramic flute shaped like a teardrop and hand painted in bold colors. It's made by the Kuna Indians which are a matriarchal society living on an island called San Blas Archipelago. I liked that their society has a strong feminine element because it is that quality that I value most in you.
 
The sad part is that I wasn't able to give you this gift before you left the BDSM scene. Your unexpected departure has been traumatic for both of us, but I won't compromise your privacy by publishing details of your journey. Instead, I have wrapped up your gift and will hold it until I see you again. It is my statement of faith that you will be returned not only to me, but to all the people who love you, healthy and full of God's presence. Whether it takes a month, a year, or forever, this is my promise to you that I will be the friend I promised to be. Even if I cannot now or ever be your lover, I will be there for you if you need me, just as you were there for me when I was sick with grief. If you open this gift and it turns out you no longer love me, then I will accept the smaller gift that keeping my promise meant.
 
I believe that love transcends fear. I believe that God will care for you and guide your path. I believe that the love I have for you will somehow help you through your darkness into light, even if you cannot feel my presence or my prayer.
 
Just as you played your flute to heal me - knowing that I could only barely hear it - I will play my flute for you. I know you are too far away to hear all the notes, but I hope the breeze will bring its sound aloft to your window.
 
Love always,
 
~ Sadie
 
 
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Love is never as ferocious as when you think it's gonna leave you.
~ Sean Penn, in Mystic River

 
REFERENCES
Kuna Indians
http://thorup.com/cuna.html


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Sensuous Sadie is the author of It's Not About the Whip: Love, Sex, and Spirituality in the BDSM Scene ( http://www.trafford.com/robots/03-0551.html ). She is the founder and leader (1999 - 2001) of Rose & Thorn, Vermont's first BDSM group. Comments, compliments and complaints, as well as requests for reprinting can be addressed to her at SensuousSadie@aol.com or visit her website at www.sensuoussadie.com. Sadie believes the universe is abundant, and that sharing information freely is part of this abundance, so she allows reprints of her writing in most venues.

Copyright February 2004 Sadie Sez Publications


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