Just for Novices to BDSM

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

New to BDSM?

Not to worry - all of us started out in BDSM once, and you are in very good company! Here are some resources to get you on your way:

BDSM: It stands for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism. (the D & S in the middle there are used twice). AKA S&M, SM, S/M, D&S and so on. I always use the full formal "BDSM" because it is inclusive of the many different flavors of our lifestyle. 

 

BDSM Websites with good info for Novices

Albany Power Exchange (APeX)
www.albanypowerexchange.com 

Frugal Domme
http://www.frugaldomme.com/  

Mistress Steel: The Steel Door
http://www.steel-door.com/Chamber.html
 

Submission 
http://www.tiedmoments.com/submission/submission.htm

 

 

Series of Sadie's Columns on Getting Started in BDSM

Where Do I Start? 
Getting Involved in the BDSM Community
 
Exploring Relationship Options in BDSM
 
Getting up to Speed on the Technical Stuff of Dominance
 
OK I Have a Submissive … What the Heck Do I Do Now?

Protecting your Identity in the BDSM Scene

Play Party Series 
I've Been Invited To A BDSM Play Party! Should I Go?
 
Public Play, Private Preference - Play Parties and that Whole Dilemma

What Every Novice Dominant Should Have In Their Bag-O-Toys

Fashion Series (Yes I know fashion isn't what BDSM is about, but it is one of the areas that people ask the most questions about regarding events)

Part I: Can't I Just Wear My Flannel Shirt? Why Fetish Wear is De Rigeur
Part II: Developing a Fetish Wardrobe on a Budget
Part III: Accessorizing for Pain & Pleasure

The Frugal Submissive (for Dominants too): Saving money on fashion, toys, dating and events

 


Other Resources

BDSM Groups in New England, Upstate New York and Montreal 
BDSM Dictionary
of Terms by Subaltern
Discussion groups just for Submissives, Dominants, and other mixed groups
Books for Beginners

 

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Please send them to SensuousSadie@aol.com